Stuff happens. That doesn’t make me a victim.
I have failed but that doesn’t make me a failure.
I have suffered loss, but that doesn’t make me a loser.
We all have trials but they don’t have to define us. If we claim our trials, our story gives us an excuse to stay stuck. “this is why I am the way I am...” it becomes our excuse to stay that way. It's locked in place because we choose to believe that. If we name our enemy and tell the truth about it, we have half a chance at defeating it and triumphing over it into a new way of thinking. When we tell the truth about what happened in our past and get it out of our heads, we take all the power of its hold over us and we can begin to let it go.
Even though I don’t drink anymore, I say I am an alcoholic in recovery because it gives power to the recovery over it. I can help others by telling others what happened to me and identifying where I have come from, but it doesn’t continue to define me or keep me there.
I can claim my sobriety date as a defining moment when I step from victim (this happening to me) into victor—claiming victory over the obsession to drink and the thinking that controls that. It is up to me because God did give us the choice.
The victory lies in how we frame the circumstances. Old patterns you have in place get rearranged. If the circumstances don’t get rearranged, your thinking about them does. You will begin to look at everything with new eyeglasses. It's ok to ask for help. From somebody close to you, or from God.
Step into the light just by how you view yourself.
YOU are a victor.
See it. Believe it. Live it.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
2 Corinthians 12:9