My husband likes to say, “Take my advice, I’m not using it.”
Ha ha. Yes. I am really good at seeing what someone else needs to do (and judging what YOU are doing as wrong in my mind.) I need to take my own advice. Look at my own side of the street. Clean that up.
That’s why I love sponsoring women so much. Whatever they are going through that they share with me, I get to look at too. They hold up the mirror for me to see what I might not otherwise see. So helpful in my own growth process.
Who is helping who here?
In Step Four, we look at resentments and how they can poison our thinking. We review what “our part was in any given interaction.” We aren’t responsible for what others think or do. However, we are responsible for our response to others and situations. That is the defining difference. I don’t get to resent what YOU do or say any more, because I know that’s like drinking the poison and expecting YOU to die, right? It is not serving either one of us.
If I am not actively looking at my side of the street and how I can change, how can I advise others to do that?
This is where the serenity prayer comes in, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen.”
I think I will start using my own advice—what would you advise?
“Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you may also be tempted.”
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