When service becomes exhausting for me, it’s called codependency!
I realized after getting sober, I was also very codependent. I heard someone say the definition of codependency that resonated with me: “Helping another person at the expense of myself.” That is the exhausting part. Giving up something I need to do for myself and my own sobriety to help someone else. That is not helping either person.
I learned in early sobriety, that the quickest way out of my own spiraled thinking, was to help someone else—to be of service. This worked for me, and I also have to balance that with self-care. There is a middle ground where I can be in service and still stay healthy. Boundaries. To, not only, leave time for me, MAKE time for me.
How do I do this and reframe it?
Self-care.
Self-care is not Selfish.
What is Self-care?
Self-care is being intentional with your time and with boundaries for your own sobriety, meditating, praying, spending time with loved ones or outside with exercise, going to meetings to hear God speak.
We can’t give what we don’t have.
We need to fill our spiritual tank.
Rest in this day.
“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.”
James 4:10
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